Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

My Stomach Sank Just A Little

June 29, 2015

Pamela Kay Noble Brown

Update:  On Friday, June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex unions are now to be recognized as legal marriages in all 50 states. This original blog below expressed my thoughts three years ago when it was up to individual states to decide the legality of it all. It even more so reflects my feelings now that it has become the law of the land, and I feel compelled to post it again. Thank you.

“My stomach sank just a little”. These were the words spoken by a pastor Wednesday evening after President Barack Obama infamously became the first sitting American President to support same-sex marriage. I have to admit that these words also come very close to describing the tightening feeling knotted in my own gut the moment I heard the President’s interview. I’ll tell you why.

Every since I first heard of Barack Obama, I…

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You called me a what? Veronica goes to pieces.

March 19, 2015
Drama in the House!!!  (photo credit:  atlantablackstar.com)

Drama in the House!!! (photo credit: atlantablackstar.com)

How many of you watch Tyler Perry’s “The Have and the Have Nots”? I watch the show, and just about always enjoy it. There are two things I’d like to discuss right now and they are: Mommy/Son Issues and Don’t Call Me That.

Mommy/Son Issues

What in tarnation is wrong with Veronica? Every mother has wishes of how she’d like her child(ren) to turn out. There is nothing wrong with having those images in our minds, but what is dead wrong is trying to forcefully impose those views on them like they are our property. It seems the better thing to do is teach them values and morals to the best of our ability when they are very young and yielding. Once they are adults and can make their own decisions, we can choose to accept them or not, but we have no right to try to have our preferences beaten in or out of them. To turn a dangerous felon loose on your own child is crossing the line.

Don’t Call Me That

That last scene in the posh hotel bar can be taken so many ways. It was a very deep scene encompassing many story lines, i.e. David and Veronica’s relationship, David and Maggie’s relationship, and the dynamic between Veronica and Maggie. But one of the biggest takeaways to me was Veronica’s reaction to being called a “B” by David. She has done crazy things before behind closed doors, but has always had a public-ready facade in place when the doors opened and cameras started rolling.

 
This Veronica did not give two fig newtons that they were in an open hotel lobby. When David called her that name, she dove headfirst over the cliff of fed-up-ness. And I submit to you that her outward expression of rage is what any of us really feel, would feel, or have ever felt when called that name. If it’s a first date and a man calls you that, thank God you dodged a bullet, and run for the hills. But can you imagine having been married all that time, having invested your time and energy in promoting the joint success of you both, having squeezed out a child for this man, and then he calls you that? Explode would be the most like reaction for many.

 
Far too many women have become desensitized to being called that word because it is so prevalent in music, movies, and now even on television shows. We’ve gotten so used to hearing it that some of us call ourselves and our friends that to try to make it have a positive connotation, as in “I’m a bad B”. Well no matter how it is prettied-up and presented, it is still an ugly hurtful word. And Veronica played out the rage that we would feel inside; even should we decide to stay in the relationship. The word has got to go! Well done Veronica and more of us should insist “Don’t Call Me that”. I thank you.

Kim K’s desperate ploy for Kanye’s affection

November 14, 2014
Kim:  Spend all your time in the studio huh?  I'll show you. (Photo Credits:  en.wikipedia.org)

Kanye West doing what he loves best. (Photo Credit:  en.Wikipedia.org

Kim: Spend all your time in the studio huh? I'll show you. (Photo Credit: en.Wikipedia.org)

Kim: Spend all your time in the studio huh? I’ll show you. (Photo Credit: en.Wikipedia.org)

By now we all or most of us anyway, have seen Kim Kardashian’s spread in Paper magazine. And it is raising uncomfortable questions. Why is Kardashian doing this? Oh sure, people joke about her infamous sex-tape and the years more than 15 minutes of fame it has led to. But over the years she has fought to put the negativity behind her and regroup. She grew up and matured into a respectable wife and mother.

Is it money? Well someone once said, “You can never be too rich or too thin.” None of us know what’s going on with the finances of Mr. and Mrs. Kanye West. However, it is probably safe to say that they are both earning at least a few cents over the federal minimum wage of $7.25 per hour. With a two-family income, they are presumably able to care for their daughter North without having to go on government assistance at this particular time.

Is it fame? I don’t know. It could be, but that doesn’t seem to be a feasible reason either. The magazine claimed that with these photos, they were going to try to “break the internet”. They wouldn’t assume that was going to happen if the pictures had featured Sally Sue from around the corner. So obviously the Kim Kardashian name is already well known.

Is it a cry to be noticed by her husband? I believe this is the most likely. Both Kardashian and West are busy people. But West is super busy. Not only is he a rap star, but he also frequently travels back and forth to Europe, meeting with various designers in his bid to be a fashion mogul. Try as she might to keep up, and she seems to go with him a lot, there are just sometimes mommy has to stay home with the baby; for example, if the child is too sick to travel.

Sometimes a husband’s devotion to business can appear to be a lack of caring. Not as egregious as cheating, mind you, but many women want their spouse’s time and emotional attention more than anything. Sometimes a woman will not step out to another person, but will act out in ways that will make the spouse angry. They feel like any attention is better than no attention. That’s my bet. No matter that it is the year 2014, and women do what they want.

I think Kardashian proposed to do something so ridiculous (I mean come on, full frontal nudity that all of his friends will see) that Kanye would say, “Baby don’t do it. I love and adore you far too much for the world to see the intimacies that should be shared between us only in love.” Apparently, and sadly, that didn’t happen, because she went forward the photo shoot. Not a good family look.

Do you agree dear readers? What are your thoughts or concerns?

Love mystery romance suspense? My thriller is on sale for three days only.

April 2, 2014
Bored + Housewife = Trouble!

Bored + Housewife = Trouble!

 

3-Day Sale: Kelly learns the hard way all that glitters isn’t gold in “Handcuffs and a Pyramid of Satin”  Be sure to use coupon code EH35C when checking out to get 50% off now!  Please share.

Excerpt from “Handcuffs and a Pyramid of Satin”:

Flight from Reality

Room 222 was a hilarious high school sitcom back in the early 1970’s. But there was nothing at all funny about the series of twos in Kelly Cavenaugh’s life.  Kelly thought about her current situation and breathed a pathetic sigh as she sat waiting in the airport for her connecting flight. She had been married for exactly two years, two months, and two days and already she knew she’d married the wrong man.

Kelly slid over on the blue attached seats in the airport waiting area to make room for a frazzled mother to fit in with her three active kids. Kelly couldn’t help but smile as the head of the smallest child bumped her elbow. The little girl glanced at her mother’s stern face and immediately burst into tears.

“I’m so sorry,” said the mother.  “Please excuse her.  I’m trying to keep them still.”

“No problem,” said Kelly, rummaging through her purse for a tissue to catch the drops of coffee dribbling down her cup.  Thank goodness the lid hadn’t come off, she thought.  Hot coffee would have splashed all over this child’s face.  Once the mother had the kids momentarily settled and sharing a pack of fruit Mentos, Kelly returned to her thoughts.

Jeff had seemed so perfect on paper…

 

 

 

JUST FRIENDS_2 DAYS OF LOVE WITH PAMELA KAY NOBLE BROWN

February 20, 2014

If you haven’t read “Handcuffs and a Pyramid of Satin” yet, please be sure to check out my excerpt featured today on the blog of author C. Michelle Ramsey.   🙂

 

Bored + Housewife = Trouble!

Bored + Housewife = Trouble!

 

WRITING MY DREAMS: Taking Your Emotions on a Roller Coaster Ride…: JUST FRIENDS_2 DAYS OF LOVE WITH PAMELA KAY NOBLE …: Sometimes a married woman can find herself in a relationship and feel so all alone. Sometimes that same married woman just needs a friend …

My Stomach Sank Just A Little

May 10, 2012

Update:  On Friday, June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex unions are now to be recognized as legal marriages in all 50 states. This original blog below expressed my thoughts three years ago when it was up to individual states to decide the legality of it all. It even more so reflects my feelings now that it has become the law of the land, and I feel compelled to post it again. Thank you.

“My stomach sank just a little”. These were the words spoken by a pastor Wednesday evening after President Barack Obama infamously became the first sitting American President to support same-sex marriage. I have to admit that these words also come very close to describing the tightening feeling knotted in my own gut the moment I heard the President’s interview. I’ll tell you why. continue reading

Lyrical Love

February 9, 2012

Hi everyone.    This post is pure indulgent romantica.  I am just so digging Beyonce’s evolution of love right now.  Let’s take a stroll “back down memory lane” (another great song, but we’ll talk about that another time).

Now I’ll be the first to admit that I wasn’t really a fan of Jay Z and Beyonce as a couple in the beginning.  I thought he was too gangster and she was too elegant.  But as time went on, they kind of grew on me.  And now I’m totally rooting for their love to last.  Let me explain why I get such a rush out of this couple.    Enjoy.:)

 

What’s Wrong with Marriage? 2008

July 9, 2008

    Okay, I’ve just about had it.  Everyone is so afraid of being accused of being judgemental, that no one will speak the truth.  What ever happened to “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in a carriage”?

     P. Diddy, Jamie Lynn Spears, Nicole Richie, Babyface (not you too Babyface!!!!), and Halle Berry…come on….Oscar winner Halle Berry.  And my goodness, don’t even think about “multiple babies out of wedlock” world ambassador Angelina Jolie!!!  Babies are a natural outcome of love shared between two people who have committed their lives to each other and agreed to raise the baby in a two-parent home full of love.  Sure every marriage doesn’t work out. Continue reading more